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Why Do Wives Always Leave?
by Brian Price 8/19/09

INTRO
Why do women always leave? That's a good question. I don't really know. But, there are theories out there.

I partly believe that it is in their emotional nature to leave their husbands. I think every single wife on the planet has seriously contemplated leaving their husband. Half of them have probably actually done it. There could possibly be many different reasons going on in their head.

Maybe they think, "My husband doesn't know how to treat a woman. He doesn't deserve me." Which, I would say is a pretty accurate thought process for a woman. Men think along the terms of sex. It's all about sex, food, and television. For women, it's all about self. When a man doesn't live up to their expectations, they bolt. But that doesn't mean they don't have any good reason to. Their reasoning may be legitimate.

Let's face it. Men probably sin more than women. When Jesus addressed the sin of adultery, he addressed it in such a manner as though he was only speaking to men.

"27 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:
28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
- Matthew 5:27-28
LEGITIMATE REAONS
I tell you what. If you hit your wife or cheat on her, you can expect her to leave you. Can you blame her?

Most women are willing to stick it out through the toilet seat battles, the pick-up-your-sock grievances, or whatever peddly nuisance you guys fight over. But when it comes right down to it, punching, slapping, yelling at the top of your lungs, throwing things, and cheating are all grounds for your wife to leave your butt behind.

However, if you are a lady and you are reading this, let me exhort you to do the Biblical thing (which is easy to say, but hard to do), and try to stick it out. If your physical safety is in danger, get to a safe place, don't keep the kids from him, and seek reconciliation through spiritual means (i.e., counseling underneath a Christian pastor, pray a lot, etc.).

"10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife."
- 1 Corinthians 7:10-11
DON'T LEAVE HIM
Notice the scripture is talking to women. Let not the wife depart from her husband. The Lord said this because he knows women have a problem with leaving their husbands. It's a fact of life that women leave their husbands for every reason under the sun. Some women take it to the extreme when they leave their husbands. They take all their husband's money and run. And in many cases, they take the kids and try to keep them from their father. THIS IS ABSOLUTELY WICKED. How dare you take everything that this man holds dear in this world! Take the money, sure. Take the house. Take the car. Take whatever you want. But for crying out loud, DON'T STEAL THE CHILDREN FROM THEIR FATHER. You are acting like a foolish woman if you do that. I've known men who were wonderful fathers, and their wives just got up and ran with the children, and tried to keep them from the father. You don't understand what you are doing.

God gave that man those children, and it is God only who has the right to take them away from him. Not YOU.

"...the LORD gave, and the LORD hath taken away; blessed be the name of the LORD." - Job 1:21

THE STATISTICS
According to some statistics, there will be approximately 1.4 million divorces this year. Some internet sources say that 50% of marriages end in divorce. That means 1 out of 2 marriages end in divorce. And the divorce rate for second marriages are even higher.

But the point you need to realize is that two thirds to THREE QUARTERS* of all divorce filings are done by the women. Granted, it could be that women are just more proactive than men when it comes to getting the marriage over with, but it could be a real serious problem with the opposite gender. What is it exactly?

*See http://www.divorcebusting.com/a_walkaway_wife.htm

Dear Friend,
I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THAT IS!

However! Dr. James Dobson once said that the problem lies with deep seated disrespect. Over time, after much trial and error to get the husband to conform to her "ways," she ends up with a loathsome distaste for the husband. His affection is utterly grotesque. His advances are viewed with contempt and disdain. And his efforts to gain her love are viewed as a silly attempt that should have long ago been done.

"Thou art thy mother's daughter, that lotheth her husband..." - Ezekial 16:45
Women, I suppose, naturally tend to abhor their husbands over time. Potiphar's wife, if you'll notice, hated her husband, because even though Potiphar did nothing wrong, she accused her husband to the servants that, "...See, he hath brought in an Hebrew unto us to mock us..." (Genesis 39:14). The silly thing was that it was her that had tried to seduce Joseph to lie with her.

Nevertheless, the reasons can be stacked a mile high for why women despise their husbands, but we all can somewhat empathize with them. We men tend to be lustful, angry, distant, detached, careless with our words, thoughtless (instead of thoughtful), and the list goes on. Brother, ask yourself, would you want to be married to a man if you were a woman? Chances are, the answer is no. Good looks only go so far for women. And most men don't have good looks.

Which is why I believe God put certain things in the Bible to instruct women to do certain things. Take for instance Titus chapter 2.

"3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands..."
- Titus 2:3-4
Notice God's word says that the older women ought to teach the younger women to LOVE their husbands. They need that guidance because their natural instinct is to loathe them. Love is an emotional thing that comes from the heart, but it's also a mindset. A choice if you will.

"4 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
8 Charity never faileth...." -
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Charity is another word for love. Love does not envy. Love is kind. Love is patient.

My mother used to say that men struggle with their lust while women struggle with themselves. She used different words, but that is what she meant. It's true. Men have a problem very much so with lust, whereas women have trouble much more so with their self.

For instance, men love to look. Women love to be looked at. Why do you think you see women wearing revealing clothing everywhere? It's because they like to be looked at. It gives them some kind of reassurance that they are still desirable. Or possibly, it just helps them to have positive self-esteem.

"...Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; but let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price." - 1 Peter 3:3-4

Either way, to delve deep into the mind of woman is a difficult thing since every woman is different. But the Bible gives flat bare-bone explanations for why women leave. One of the clearest examples is Gomer, the wife of Hosea.

CONCLUSION

"For their mother hath played the harlot: she that conceived them hath done shamefully: for she said, I will go after my lovers, that give me my bread and my water, my wool and my flax, mine oil and my drink." - Hosea 2:5
Sometimes there is no substitute for the fact that some women are just plain adulteresses. That doesn't mean some men aren't adulterers. I'm not trying to only bash on women. That's not my intent. My intent for this article was aimed towards the man, to give him an explanation as to WHY. Why do women leave? Why do they do the things that they do?

The Bible says that an adulteress eats and wipes her mouth and says, "I have done no wickedness," (Proverbs 30:20). I actually knew a guy whose wife cheated on him, and when they stood before the judge, the judge said to her, "How could you do something like that to your husband?" She replied without guilt, "I don't see anything wrong with it."

And friend, if that's the case, and your wife is an adulteress, then your wife needs the Lord Jesus. Muhammed can't help her. Buddha is just a statue. Hinduism has too many idols to even get the least of help (millions of gods in Hinduism). Atheism is just stupid. And New Age is devil worship.

My friend, what can one do? The answer is PRAY. Get your Bible out and call upon the name of the Lord.

"3 Trust in the LORD, and do good; so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed.
4 Delight thyself also in the LORD: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.
5 Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass." -
Psalms 37:3-5

"And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose." - Romans 8:28

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