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Taking Our Problems To The Wrong Person
By Brian Price 7/28/2013

"1 And when Rachel saw that she bare Jacob no children, Rachel envied her sister; and said unto Jacob, Give me children, or else I die.
2 And Jacob's anger was kindled against Rachel: and he said, Am I in God's stead, who hath withheld from thee the fruit of the womb?
3 And she said, Behold my maid Bilhah, go in unto her; and she shall bear upon my knees, that I may also have children by her.
4 And she gave him Bilhah her handmaid to wife: and Jacob went in unto her.
5 And Bilhah conceived, and bare Jacob a son.
6 And Rachel said, God hath judged me, and hath also heard my voice, and hath given me a son: therefore called she his name Dan.
7 And Bilhah Rachel's maid conceived again, and bare Jacob a second son.
8 And Rachel said, With great wrestlings have I wrestled with my sister, and I have prevailed: and she called his name Naphtali.
9 When Leah saw that she had left bearing, she took Zilpah her maid, and gave her Jacob to wife.
10 And Zilpah Leah's maid bare Jacob a son.
11 And Leah said, A troop cometh: and she called his name Gad.
12 And Zilpah Leah's maid bare Jacob a second son.
13 And Leah said, Happy am I, for the daughters will call me blessed: and she called his name Asher.
14 And Reuben went in the days of wheat harvest, and found mandrakes in the field, and brought them unto his mother Leah. Then Rachel said to Leah, Give me, I pray thee, of thy son's mandrakes.
15 And she said unto her, Is it a small matter that thou hast taken my husband? and wouldest thou take away my son's mandrakes also? And Rachel said, Therefore he shall lie with thee to night for thy son's mandrakes." - Genesis 30:1-15

You know many times, we can often take our problems to the wrong person. We read here in Genesis chapter 30 about Rachel's intense desire to have children. And rightfully so. What woman does not want to have children sometime in her life? I think the desire to have children can totally consume a person's thoughts. For Rachel, having children was more important than having a husband. For her, a husband was just a means to get children. Which perhaps was why she took her complaints to her husband in the first place. For Rachel, she saw her husband as the source of her problems. In her mind, she thought that because you cannot have children without a husband, then obviously, her husband was to blame for her not being able to have children.

But such was not the case at all. In fact, if you read in verse 2, the Bible says, "And Jacob's anger was kindled against Rachel: and he said, Am I in God's stead, who hath withheld from thee the fruit of the womb?"

So we see here that God was the one who was withholding Rachel from conception. Many times when couples cannot have children, they will go to the doctor to see if there is something wrong with the husband. Perhaps the husband is not able to have children due to some health related issue. But as some have come to find out, that is not always the case. In fact, there are cases where both the husband and the wife are perfectly healthy, and for some reason, cannot have children. And from this scripture we can see why. It is because God has shut up the womb of the woman for one reason or another.

And before we go any further, let me just say, that sometimes it really is best for some children to never be born. When you stop and think about all of the godless behavior people practice, aren't you glad that some of these people do not have children?

I know in Europe, it is not uncommon for couples to have only one child. And to be quite frank, I am glad that most of those people only have one child, and sometimes, none at all. And the reason is because there is a vast majority of non-believers in Europe as opposed to genuinely saved believers. Thank God some of those people do not have children.

When I think about my own children, and what their future would be like if I were an atheist, it scares me to death because I know that they have a snowball's chance in hell to get saved as opposed to having a Christian upbringing. Am I saying that all children who are born to unbelieving parents go to hell? No, I'm not saying that at all. In fact, the Bible specifically talks about that in the book of Ezekiel in which if a son sees all of the sins which he father does, and he doesn't do them, then he will save his soul alive. And likewise, those who have a righteous father, and yet commit their own sin contrary to what their father had done, then they will condemn themselves to death.

But generally speaking, when you have a child that is raised to love Jesus and to love the Bible, they will have a far greater chance of getting saved as opposed to children who are born to unbelieving parents. And so it only makes perfect sense for God to close up the wombs of unbelievers, and to open the wombs of believers. That is why many Christians believe in having large families. They believe that children are a blessing from God. And they also believe that children are the best way to get converts.

Take the Amish for example. The Amish are notorious for their separation. They believe in the doctrines of believers living separate from the world. Much like how Abraham took his family to live outside of the influences of Sodom and Gomorrah, the Amish have likewise taken it on themselves to live apart from the world. And although the Amish are not well known for evangelism, they certainly have it right when it comes to teaching their own children the ways of the Lord.

I know many believe that the gospel should be preached first in their own home, and then to the world. Makes sense to me.

But getting back to our text. The Bible plainly says that God was the one who had withheld Rachel from having children. And we can safely assume that one reason may be because she was the loved wife, whereas Leah was the hated wife. For one reason or another, God sort-of sought to create a balance in each of the lives of these people. For Rachel, she had the love of her husband that she could cherish, whereas Leah did not. And so in that case, God was gracious to Leah and gave her children which would give her the love that she craved. For Rachel, although children were a great desire of hers, she still had the love of a husband that was there to give her happiness in life.

And I think there's a lesson to be learned there. Many times we can overlook the good things in our life because we desperately want something else. People are interesting in that we are not always content in the things which we have been given. Its sad but true because we always want more.

Now, at this point with Rachel, notice who she took her problems to. She took them to her husband Jacob. Again, for her it seemed as though it was her husband's fault for not having children. She thought having children was as easy as having a man in her life, and having babies. But what she failed to realize is that she should not have taken her problems to her husband. But she should have taken them to God.

You see God does not need a man and a woman to make babies. We read in the beginning of Genesis how God created a full grown man from the dust of the ground. And then we read how God created a full grown woman from his rib. John the Baptist said it best when he saw the scribes and Pharisees come to his baptism. He said, "O generation of vipers, who hath warned you to flee from the wrath to come? Bring forth therefore fruits meet for repentance: and think not to say within yourselves, We have Abraham to our father: for I say unto you, that God is able of these stones to raise up children unto Abraham."

You see God is able to give us children from places where we would least expect them. And sure, God is still able to give us children from the place where he originally intended - a mother's womb. So for Rachel to beg her husband for children was a bit silly. There was really nothing Jacob could have done for her other than to pray.

And perhaps Jacob could have been a bit more understanding when she came to him with all of her emotion. Instead we read that he was enraged at her for coming at him with this crazy petition.

Jesus said in Matthew 18, "That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven."

You know why Jesus said if two of you shall agree? He said it because he knows how divided husbands and wives are. The first two on earth were a husband and a wife. And Jesus gives the husband and wife a receipe for getting what they desire. He tells them to agree on something. Come together. Get in agreement. Quit being divided on everything, and for once come together in agreement on something. He said it shall be done for them of his Father in heaven. That's a promise my friend.

Had Jacob and Rachel come together on this one thing, I imagine that Rachel would have had children a lot sooner, especially without all of the squabbling. But you see when we lose our focus on the one who can solve our problems, and then start taking our problems elsewhere, we shouldn't be suprised when that person gets mad at us for even asking. Because honestly, are they in God's stead to give us what we want? Certainly not.

You know people will try everything else before they go to God for help. They'll go to the doctor. Or they'll go to the pastor. Or they'll go to their friend. Or they'll go to a friend's friend who knows somebody. But they always wait until there's nobody left before they ask God for help. And you know it doesn't have to be that way. We should earnestly seek God's help and mercy first before we seek anybody else's. That includes our husband's or our wives' help. They're limited in their abilities. But not God. God is totally unlimited in what he can do for us.

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