About     ENCOURAGEMENT     Abortion     Bible Versions     END TIMES     Online Books     Homosexuality     ATHEISM     Evolution     Catholicism

Home     FAQ's     Islam     FAMILY     Marriage & Divorce     Pornography     Doctrine     Cults & False Doctrines     SERMONS     Various     Self-Help

Why You Should Spank Your Child
By Brian Price 5/21/2011

Growing up, my dad actually made a paddle for me and my brother. On one side of the paddle was my brother's name. On the other side was my name.

One of the greatest controversies out there for raising a family is spanking. Wow! What a subject! It is indeed a hot topic. But is spanking beneficial? Or is it child abuse? In this article I'll explain what the world says about spanking, and I'll also explain what the Bible says about spanking. Both have very different points of view.

So, let's answer the crucial question at hand. Is spanking child abuse? The answer is no. In fact, in the United States, spanking is perfectly LEGAL. Spanking is also known as corporal punishment. When does spanking become abuse? That is pretty much up to interpretation. Normally, a doctor can write that he suspects child abuse if the child is brought in with bruises, or other signs. Police can use this as evidence in child abuse cases.

So what does the world have to say about spanking?

"Massachusetts lawmakers say a proposed measure that would ban parents from spanking their children, even in their own homes, is a way to protect kids from abuse." - From article titled, Should Spanking Your Child Be Illegal? http://www.corpun.com/usd00711.htm#19835

"Most of the world's societies also bring up children violently through the use of corporal punishment." - From article titled, Spanking and the Making of a Violent Society. http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/98/4/837.abstract

"Corporal/physical punishment can be also psychologically damaging (e.g. causing low self esteem, sadness, shame, depression, etc.)." - From a booklet titled, Corporal Punishment. Written by International Save the Children Alliance. See http://www.savethechildren.net/alliance/resources/corporal_punish.pdf

"The phrase "Spare the rod and spoil the child" is not from the Bible but from Samuel Butler's "Hudibras", a 17th Century satirical poem." - From an article titled, Ten Reasons Not to Hit Your Kids; written by Jan Hunt. http://www.naturalchild.org/jan_hunt/tenreasons.html

You're right Ms. Hunt. Spare the rod, spoil the child is not in the Bible, but the following verse is:

"He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes." - Proverbs 13:24
Isn't it funny how the majority of these anti-spanking advocates are all single men and women, and they've never had children themselves? I'm sure if they had your kids for a week in their home, they would throw out their 10 reasons for not spanking!

I remember watching 1, 2, 3 MAGIC! a couple years ago. It's a video on an alternative approach to spanking. The man in the video advocates counting to 3, and then sending the child to their room for punishment. If they pout, and throw a fit in their room, so be it. You've done your job, and they are being punished. WHAT A JOKE! When one sends his child to his room and shuts the door, they are essentially leaving that child to himself to do whatever he wishes in that room. This kind of punishment does not work at all because it gives the child freedom to throw a temper tantrum just as a criminal does in a jail cell, which teaches him that throwing such a tantrum is okay, as long as it is done in private. However, any Christian knows that meaningless outbursts of anger and rage are in fact SIN.

"The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame." - Proverbs 29:15

Now if you live in Europe, the sad truth is that in most countries in Europe, corporal punishment is ILLEGAL. You can NOT spank your child in Europe. Exceptions include Great Britain, France, and Italy. Sweden is one country that will actually send the parent to jail if spanking is done. Germany also has rules restricting spanking.

So should you spank your child? The Bible says YES. You most definitely want to do that. If you are a Christian, and you wonder whether or not you should spank your child, let me tell you that the benefits to spanking FAR outweigh the risks.

"Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell."
- Proverbs 23:13-14
Why should you spank? Because the Bible very clearly says to deliver his soul from hell. Now first let me say that the Bible does not teach that little children go to hell. As far as what I have gathered from my research, the Bible teaches that only children who have been through puberty and who have sinned go to hell. Sometimes, children can be counted innocent even when they are well into their teenage (puberick) years. We can see this from the account of Jarius' daughter who Jesus said was asleep. She was 12 years of age and had died. From what we can conclude from this testimony is that this child was by no means in hell.
"And when he was come in, he saith unto them, Why make ye this ado, and weep? the damsel is not dead, but sleepeth." - Mark 5:38-43
My best guess about interpretting this verse in Proverbs is that it is refering to a child who, if he is well disciplined by his godly parents, he will likely grow up to respect the laws of God and man, and thus sealing his eternal future through godly fear. To me it is quite clear, that, if you spank him, you will likely save his soul. I think the reason for that is because typically, if you do not train your son or daughter to be obedient, that child will grow up knowing only how to be rebellious, and how to get their way. They will think that there is no consequences for their actions. On the other hand, if you spank them, you are teaching your child that you can't get away with everything. Somebody is always going to be in charge. And if no one else, then God will always be in charge ultimately. So what else does the Bible have to say about spanking? Quite a lot. Take a look at some other very important verses in scripture.
"Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him." - Proverbs 22:15

"6 For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.
7 If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?
8 But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.
9 Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live?
10 For they verily for a few days chastened us after their own pleasure; but he for our profit, that we might be partakers of his holiness.
11 Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby." - Hebrews 12:6-11

Notice how the scriptures say that chastening yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness. That means spanking yields peaceful results! Your child will be more righteous in behavior, and more peaceable. The book of Proverbs (written by the wisest man who ever lived) says that if you spank your child, the child will give you REST.
"Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul." - Proverbs 29:17

My daughter was very unruly and willful at 2 years old and 3 years old. But after a few good spankings in the past, today she is just an angel. Spanking is rare now for her. And if it happens, its usually because she's done something really bad. Most of the time, she's always looking for ways to please me or her mother. Praise God for his word!

The bottom line is that we ought to obey God rather than men. If man says you should not spank your child, then obey God instead. If you happen to be the unfortunate one that lives in a country where spanking is strictly forbidden, I would advise you to use extreme caution and secrecy when administering corporal punishment. No one should ever see you do it because they WILL take your children from you. It has even happened to families in the US. And spanking is perfectly legal in the U.S.

I sometimes wonder what I would do if I was in someone else's shoes. This is one of those times where I wonder what I would do. To be perfectly honest, this is one thing I could not compromise on. The child's eternal soul hinges on this very thing. It is crucial that the parent obey's God's instructions on LOVING CORRECTION. Spanking ought to be administered with LOVE. Spanking ought to be totally absent of violence and hatred.

Jesus said that as many as he loves, he rebukes and chastens. If you are a child of God, you will receive God's version of corporal punishment. Guaranteed! And if God uses this tool of love to produce good fruit in us, we ought to do the same to our own children. It is vital to their prosperity in life and their overall wellbeing.

As for the secular humanists running around saying parents should not spank, I say to them, GET A KID. Get a life, yes, but go get a kid and see if your advice actually works! I'm telling you, it don't. And don't confuse abuse with correction. The one is done out of love, and the other is done out of hatred. Spanking a child is God's way for a parent to lovingly administer discipline. Punching or slapping a child in the face is abuse done with hatred and should be stopped immediately. CASE CLOSED.

If You Died Today, Would You Go To Heaven?

Is Teaching The Bible... CHILD ABUSE??

The Rod Is Love